I was talking to my close friend, bestie, and soul sister, Alex, as we spent a lot of time lately talking about so many aspects of our lives: projects we do together, fun we have, laughs, cries, and simple peaceful moments of comfort. This connection is genuine intimacy; call it casual if you will, but it is intimacy. I told Alex, “Intimacy is beautiful, and it doesn’t have a gender.” It just came to me when I thought about our relationship. So I was inspired to write this
Life’s hurry and bustle makes it easy to ignore the profound beauty of our relationships. As a New Jersey native in her late 30s, I admire the intricate fabric of closeness and friendship. I want to explore with you the idea that closeness is gender-neutral and non-sexual. Let’s fully embrace the awesomeness of getting close with others in all the different ways. and celebrate the strong connections it helps us make.
Relationships: Beyond the Surface
Though commonly associated with sexual relationships, intimacy is far broader. A deep connection, sensitivity, and genuineness that go beyond the surface Laughter with a friend, confiding in someone, or just being present can bring intimacy.
For too long, society has perpetuated the idea that intimacy is only reserved for romantic relationships between men and women. This misconception limits our understanding of how to connect and makes friendships too restrictive. This gendered misconception must be dispelled, and physical connections, both sexual and non-sexual, should be celebrated in all partnerships.
It’s important to acknowledge that friendships can span genders and be personal. In addition to supporting one another’s healing, friendships may entail sharing joys, sorrows, dreams, and tragedies. Our friendships are strengthened and become more important at these intimate and vulnerable moments. Physical intimacy doesn’t require or imply romance either; maybe it’s just two people comforting and trusting one another.
Expanding Our View
We must reject conventional wisdom and widen our horizons in order to accept the notion that proximity transcends gender and sexual connections. Regardless of gender, let’s respect the closeness and vulnerability of our friends. Our close ties with people who help us be our best selves should be treasured.